If you're ugly … forget it

As you might have gleaned from some of my more recent posts, I've been going down a bit of a rabbit-hole when it comes to incels, lately. I've listened to a lot of stuff with people talking about the scientific research that's gone into determining what people look for in a potential partner. Success? Wealth? Education? Personality? Ethnicity? Culture? Religion? Politics? Familiarity? What I've learned is that, apparently, it's not all that complicated.

The factor that apparently blows everything else out of the water is good old physical attractiveness. Now, that's not to say that it's the one and only factor that ever comes into play all the time ever. What it means is that your looks determine the size and quality of the pool from which you can draw a potential mate in a way that no other quality is even comparable to. Even the people who say they don't care about looks—it turns out that subconsciously, they actually really care about looks. Not only that, but if you find someone really good looking, chances are, you're also going to think that they're funnier and nicer and more competent and trustworthy than they actually are. And get this—not only are good looking people more likely to cheat on their partner, it's also more likely that their partner will forgive them for it.

I remember years ago, I had a conversation with Squib, where I posed the question—how is it that relatively intelligent women (of which I include myself) can get into relationships with blokes who are complete dickheads, but not realise they're complete dickheads until months or years down the track. Apparently the answer is, people are hard-wired to overlook a lot of shit when they're physically attracted to someone.

Oh, and apparently, this doesn't just end with the mating game. If people find you attractive, they're likely to value your work more highly and be more forgiving of your mistakes. In fact, in a lot of first world countries, attractiveness now elicits more bias than things like race or sexual orientation—eg: if you're trying to work your way up the corporate ladder, it's better to be an attractive black woman than an ugly white woman.

Now, there is one caveat to all this—apparently there's a small subset of the population who actually legitimately don't care about physical appearance when looking for a potential mate. Unfortunately almost all of these people are fucked in the head, and end up being paranoid, insecure, manipulative, controlling, abusive, etc, etc.

Which brings me to the following video, which was posted on YouTube by a Scandinavian incel, and apparently went viral at the start of the year. It's about twenty five minutes long. There's no point in watching the whole thing, but I would definitely leave it on and listen all the way to the end.

https://youtu.be/1n5nOEJtrYA

*sigh* How does that TISM song go? If you're ugly, forget it.